Back by popular demand. I chose this poor sap because he's serving our country. And in helping him out, I'm not only making his life that much better but I'm fulfilling my patriotic duty. That being said...
Dear BunnySis,
Ok, you asked for it:
A year and a half ago I told the "girl of my dreams" how I felt about
her. At the time I was stationed in Alabama and she lived in
Minnesota. She told me that she didn't want to ruin our friendship.
Ok, fine.
A couple months later, I get deployed to the Mid-East for a year.
Thinking that I'd get over her, because I have a few other things to
worry about (i.e. getting shot at), I really didn't dwell too much on
her. But after being over there just a few weeks, I realized that all
I wanted to do was get home and be with her. I even choose my next
duty station as close to her as possible (2 1/2 hour drive away).
Fast-forward about 10 months, I get in touch with her via e-mail and
offer to take her to Vegas when I get home. She agrees.
I get home safe, hang out for a few days, and then head off to Vegas for
the Adult Video Industry Awards (Perfect timing!!)
I get drunk and pour my heart out to this girl. Telling her that the
entire year I was gone all I thought about was her, she means the
world to me, etc...Her response: I'm sorry, I just don't feel the same way.
Well, holy-hell.
So there I was, in Vegas, all bitter, with a girl I'm head-over-heels
in love with, staying in the same hotel room with, THAT I PAID FOR.
And I don't even get a sympathy lay, or BJ, or HJ, or kiss.
Worst part is, we still hang out. Watch TV together, she cooks me
dinner at her place, making plans for next Vegas trip (that I WON'T be
paying for!), she helped me pick out an apartment, she's going to
decorate it, and generally just being "normal" friends.
So, what the fuck do I do? Stop hanging out with her? Just accept
being friends? Keep trying and hope that she'll come around?
Women are confusing....
Thanks
Ummm...No we're not, it's really quite simple.
Are you some kind of glutton for punishment? You're still hanging out with this girl with whom you are in love? I'm only going to say this once...
YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO MAKE HER LOVE YOU!
It took me a long time to learn this. But when I did, it was like I was awakened from a deep, Tylenol PM induced slumber. Your feelings for her are making you do stupid, self-destructive things. She is never going to tell you this because, well...she's getting what she wants out of your "relationship". Fuck, the girl got a trip to Vegas, and you didn't even get a damn hand job!
The ONLY thing you can do is to cut ties with her. You can't be friends (at least not for a while)...don't talk yourself into thinking you can. Delete her phone #. Block her from IM. Do whatever it takes to cut ties. You need to detach. You'll never get over her if you don't.
Trust me on this. It's very easy and doesn't take long once you do it. In fact, you'll be amazed you ever felt and acted the way you did.
And when you're ready if you truly care about her friendship, you can start to be around her again.
God damn, I'm good.
If you got a problem, YO I'll solve it...BunnySis@gmail.com
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Comments
BSis is right. I was crazy about my best guy friend for about 6 years before it finally dawned on me that it was never going to happen. I can't believe I wasted so much time on him! Luckily we're still good friends.
And don't let this chick decorate your apartment. When you get your next girlfriend, she's not going to be pleased about who your interior decorator is.
Posted by: LilaChicaD at January 20, 2006 02:02 PM
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